“It’s not about big goals. It’s not about the confidence to be able to say them out loud.” Katrin Davidsdottir said, “It’s the focus and dedication to the task at hand, no matter how small, and giving your very best in each and every moment.”

Clear thinking leads to clear action. We have to possess the right understanding of what needs doing, and how to do. That’s why you have a to-do list or task management system of some sort.

Having a Not-To-Do List is as important as a to-do list. A not-to-do list is more than the inverse of the to-do list. It keeps you on track and helps you lead the life you want.

Often the road to achieving your goals runs through what you don’t do, more than what you do. Ben Bergeron shared 10 things he suggests we avoid like all get out. I found it an exciting exercise and share it with you here.

Don’t hit the snooze button.
Don’t get mad in traffic.
Don’t show up late.
Don’t tolerate gossip (or gossip yourself).
Don’t watch the news.
Don’t pass judgment.
Don’t eat and scroll.
Don’t look at email before lunch.
Don’t leave dishes in the sink.
Don’t wait for perfect.

One thing is held in common by each of these items. They encourage you to focus on what you control. Why give energy and attention to things you exert zero influence over?

You can create a not-to-do list or not. The one thing you can’t do is reach your goals by focusing on things outside your control.

Focus instead on what you can influence and control. Make this your sweet spot. Expand all your energy working on the mastery of all things within your sphere of influence.

That’s how you win.