You Should Try A Story Night With Your Family

Rachel stood by the Audi watching Raylan, Raylan the show. Watching him facing Coover holding the bright-metal piece at his leg. Watched Coover swing the rat by the tail and let it go and saw it coming at her to land on the hood of the Audi. Rachel didn't move. Raylan didn't either, didn't glance around. 
But said, "Coover, you throw a dead rat at my car. What're you trying to tell me?" 
Rachel unsnapped the holster riding on her hip. 
Coover said, "Take it any way you want, long as you know I'm serious." 
"You're telling me you're one mean son of a bitch," Raylan said to his face. "You know how many wanted felons have given me that look? I say a thousand I know I'm low. Some turn ugly as I snap on the cuffs; they're too late. Some others, I swear, even try to draw down on me. All I'm asking, how'd you come to take Angel's kidneys?"

 
The world of Elmore Leonard is as rich in characters and story as it is witty dialogue. I settled on this classic from his novel Raylan because I read it in January. You may be familiar with it because FX created the TV series called Justified based on his main character, Raylan Givens. 

Leonard was a master at dialogue. He had a way of making you forget you were reading. It's easy to spend three hours turning pages right in the middle of the action without noticing.  

Good writing does that to you. It pulls you in and doesn't let go. I haven't particularly enjoyed reading fiction for most of my life. I considered myself far too serious a person to waste my time on silly fiction. 

Then at the tender age of twenty-eight Lee Child and his iconic character, Jack Reacher came into my life. Here was a larger than life character that reminded me of my uncle George, right down to the former Army MP background. It grabbed me by the throat and pulled me into the world I'd long abandoned. 

I read over 30 fiction books that year. I was back in the fiction reading business. I've sought to make up for lost time since turning the page on my first Reacher novel two years ago. From The Hobbit to Harry Potter I've been swimming in the seas of tall tales and loving every second of it. It's brought color and light to my reading life, where once were only the dreary shadows of the real world. 

It's all about storytelling for me. I enjoy getting lost in the sights, sounds, and memories of another. Be it a novel, short story or fireside chat, storytelling is a tradition we've lost touch with over the years. 

How often to we gather around the living room for no other purpose but the telling of stories? We're usually talking over one another and half listening as we go. That's why I'm especially grateful for a tradition Hannah's family started this past year called Story Night. 

It's exactly what you're picturing. After dinner, we'll gather around with coffee, water or hot tea and take turns telling tales. This isn't the free for all you're most likely picturing. It's an ordered process designed to help us learn to not simply to tell good stories, but to listen.  

Here are the ground rules: 

1.) Participation is voluntary - If someone doesn't want to share a story, they're welcome to skip doing so.  
2.) The speaker has the floor - Whoever is talking has the floor, no exceptions. They have 5-10 mins of uninterrupted time to share their story. It can be a story they've prepared, a song, or a tale from their childhood. What matters is that while they are talking, no one else may jump in. 
3.) Questions are welcome - After the storyteller has completed their turn, others in the room can ask as many questions as they want. Sometimes this time is even better than the stories. You get to hear all the behind the details on how they chose their topic and why. 
 
Story Night is one of my favorite nights. Sometimes I read something I've written and other times I don't prepare anything at all. It's a beautiful tradition full of fun, and laughter that I can't get enough of.   

Monthly Mash Up (February 2017)

February is practically over, which means Hannah and I are ever so close to welcoming our first little into the world. As the countdown to Hudson continues, I’d like to share with you what I'm reading, pondering and enjoying. This has been something I’ve regularly shared with email subscribers but am now sharing as a monthly post on the blog. I hope the resources I share with here are helpful and brighten your day. If you do enjoy it, feel free to pass it along to family and friends.

Verse I'm Chewing On

 “Oh, taste and see that the LORD is good! Blessed is the man who takes refuge in him!” - Psalm 34:8

Hannah and I are reading through the Psalms & Proverbs this year with our church. It has been great so far and I can’t wait to see how it continues to shape us. Psalm 34 in general is outstanding. What a marvelous example of how we are to worship The Lord. I can imagine David rocking back and forth with pure adulation for the Lord as he penned these words. Here’s a musical rendition by Shane & Shane to give you a taste of the richness and fullness of truth this Psalm captures.  

What I'm Reading

1. The Meaning of Marriage by Tim Keller - We continue to read this with our community group. It has been awesome so far. It’s served as a reminder of things we learned in Merge.

2. Pronto by Elmore Leonard  

3. Riding The Rap by Elmore Leonard

4. Raylan by Elmore Leonard

5. Fire In The Hole by Elmore Leonard - I was a fan of the show Justified. In fact, it is my favorite TV Show. While the series was officially based on Fire In The Hole, these other three books containing the character Raylan Givens make their way on to the screen. I added these four to my list, when I learned the series was based on the writings of Elmore Leonard. They were fun reads with outstanding dialogue. You would expect nothing less from the genius of Leonard.

6. Spiritual Disciplines for the Christian Life by Donald Whitney - I am reading this as part of a discipleship group. It has challenged many of my preconceived notions and inspired me to meditate on God’s Word with greater intention. I have been especially encouraged by Whitney’s recurring reminder that Spiritual Disciplines are means to the end of becoming like Jesus, not ends themselves. Forgetting their role quickly leads to performance and drudgery.   

7. The Old Man and the Sea by Ernest Hemingway - I’d never read Hemingway. Feeling ashamed I picked this classic up and began to read. I have been struck by the simplicity of his writing and storytelling. There is much to be learned in that regard, even if the tale depresses the hell out of me.   

What I’m Listening To

1. Stop Starving and Start Making a Living from Your Art: Interview with Cory Hugg - This is a great interview discussing art, gatekeepers and finding unique ways to make a living from your artistic endeavors with Cory Hugg.

2. Mumford & Sons: The Road to Red Rocks (Live) - I’d all but forgotten Mumford was still out there. This month I started listening to them again and found their music just as enjoyable as I did three years ago.

3. Words, Words, Words—The Way I Heard It with Mike Rowe - Mike Rowe is outstanding. I was enamored with Dirty Jobs as a kid and now find his weekly podcast a must listen. This episode was especially enjoyable as Mike pulled back the curtain.  

4. Get Your Life Back —Sermon Series from Connexus Church - Carey Nieuwhof is the pastor of a church in Canada and host of the Carey Nieuwhof Leadership Podcast. I discovered both this past year and have enjoyed Carey’s interviews and encouragement. This month I turned my attention to learning more about the idea of dropping the pursuit of balance and instead embracing passion.  

New Practice I’m Trying

Keeping a Daily Logbook - This is different than a journal in that it is simply a quick jotting down of the small details of your day for later remembrance. Austin Kleon mentioned it in his book, Steal Like An Artist, so I’m trying it on. So far I’ve enjoyed the practice. I’ve stopped journaling for now and have found this a fun and energizing way to reflect on the day.

From the Internet

1. How can Christians show loving kindness to refugees and do justice for Americans? - The refugee crisis is real and concerning for many of us. Here Todd Wagner offers an excellent take on how we as should respond.

2. “NFL 2017” — Bad Lip Reading of the NFL - Always funny.

3. 10 Ridiculously Simple Steps for Writing a Book - Helpful thoughts and ideas for tackling that book project of yours.

4. Simon Sinek on Millennials in the Workplace - This interview made its rounds on the interwebs a while back but is worth revisiting. Simon shares some statistics and thoughts on the Millennial generation that are well worth our time and attention.

5. 5 Podcasts You Should Be Listening To - I’m always down for new podcasts and added two of Barnabas’ recommendation to my list.