What do you do with frustration? 

No matter who you are or what your goals, you will at one point or another experience frustration. Things won’t be going according to plan and you’ll have a choice. 

The choice to find a new path forward, to reshape your approach, to adapt and overcome; or the choice to pack it in and go home. 

Which road will you choose?

The one road leads to change, growth, and victory. The other only to loss, disappointment and regret. 

The path you take when goals, and dreams meet frustration is everything. It determines more than if you reach them, but the type of person you become along the way. 

Systems

There is a difference between knowing what you want to do, and actually making yourself do it. 

What helps you move things from one category to the other?

The discipline to spend more time focusing on systems than thinking about goals. 

A system gives you a tangible method that requires regular—if not daily—activity. For example, writing a novel is a goal, but writing 500 words a day is a system. It’s the small daily habit and, not the grand idea, that wins the war. 

Goals are great in the short-term but systems win over the long haul by placing your focus where it should be—the process. 

The process doesn’t come with deadlines, and most days you won’t be able to immediately see your progress. But over-time they’ll get you where you always wanted to go.

Taking back the capacity to think

Tristan Harris recently opened an interview with the following words from Neil Postman:

“We were keeping our eye on 1984. When the year came and the prophecy didn't, thoughtful Americans sang softly in praise of themselves. The roots of liberal democracy had held. Wherever else the terror had happened, we, at least, had not been visited by Orwellian nightmares.

But we had forgotten that alongside Orwell's dark vision, there was another - slightly older, slightly less well known, equally chilling: Aldous Huxley's Brave New World. Contrary to common belief even among the educated, Huxley and Orwell did not prophesy the same thing. Orwell warns that we will be overcome by an externally imposed oppression. But in Huxley's vision, no Big Brother is required to deprive people of their autonomy, maturity, and history. As he saw it, people will come to love their oppression, to adore the technologies that undo their capacities to think.

What Orwell feared were those who would ban books. What Huxley feared was that there would be no reason to ban a book, for there would be no one who wanted to read one. Orwell feared those who would deprive us of information. Huxley feared those who would give us so much that we would be reduced to passivity and egoism. Orwell feared that the truth would be concealed from us. Huxley feared the truth would be drowned in a sea of irrelevance. Orwell feared we would become a captive culture. Huxley feared we would become a trivial culture, preoccupied with some equivalent of the feelies, the orgy porgy, and the centrifugal bumblepuppy. As Huxley remarked in Brave New World Revisited, the civil libertarians and rationalists who are ever on the alert to oppose tyranny "failed to take into account man's almost infinite appetite for distractions." In 1984, Orwell added, people are controlled by inflicting pain. In Brave New World, they are controlled by inflicting pleasure. In short, Orwell feared that what we fear will ruin us. Huxley feared that what we desire will ruin us.”

In the end, both Huxley and Orwell may prove to be right with one phenomenon leading to the other.

But not if you make different choices. Not if you apply discipline and avoid the trap of pleasure technology can so easily bring. 

But you must be diligent and thoughtful. 

You can’t move throughout the world without thinking of the impact of each new shiny toy upon your life. 

Google may have already undone your capacity to think, but it’s never too late to get it back. 

Instead of being led astray and enslaved by technology, use it to order good books and read them. 

Books that make your mind work and sweat a little. 

Books that feed your mind solid food instead of candy. 

Books about history, theology, economics, and business. 

These may sound boring to you now, but you’ll sing a different toon in the end. 

Willpower

People want to tell you that willpower alone isn’t strong enough to carry you through. 

These people want to push you towards motivation, systems, and products. 

The problem with these things is that they’re unreliable. 

Your will and commitment to discipline, on the other hand, is infinitely reliable and gets stronger with time. 

You can train it like a muscle. 

When you want to improve your squat, you do progressively heavier squats. 

Your will is the exact same. It will get stronger and more reliable the more you force it to act. 

You do this by committing to actions that push you beyond your comfort zone. 

Things like getting up early, working out, and sticking with things when you want to quit. 

Instead of waiting for motivation to strike just get up and do it.

Force yourself to conquer the obstacles in your way. 

Don’t over think it, just do it.  

Fear

Fear can be a real killer. 

It can kill your drive, your passion, and your desire.

Fear can rob you of all these things and much more. 

Far from being some distant enemy in the world out there, fear attacks from within. 

It sneaks up on you uninvited and unnoticed and whispers lie after lie into your ear. 

“You’ll never make it.”

“You don’t have what it takes.”

“That’s too heavy for you”

“It’s going to be too hard” 

“You should just give up”

Fear is crafty and wants to keep you from doing the very things that need doing. 

It wants to you to play it safe and for you to never feel discomfort. 

But that’s where all the growth is. 

Tell fear to take a hike, the next time it whispers in your ear.   

Remind yourself that all the good things in life—health, happiness, strength, and freedom—are found on the other side of discomfort. 

Remind yourself exactly what you’re running after. Then do the things needed to get there, no matter how hard or scary they may be. 

Once you’re done and you’ve conquered it, you’ll see how silly fear was in the first place.